“Bisexuals find themselves erased in history. Many famous people―such as Marlene Dietrich, June Jordan, Freddie Mercury, Eleanor Roosevelt, and Walt Whitman―have been labeled as lesbian or gay for their same-sex relationships, yet their long-term relationships with different-sex partners are ignored or their importance minimized. This disrespects the truth of their lives for the sake of a binary conception of sexual orientation. It also makes it more difficult for bisexuals just coming out to find role models.”—http://www.sf-hrc.org/Modules/ShowDocument.aspx?documentid=989 (via strippingwizardsonabartop)
Kill the idea that naivety is an unforgivable flaw but cynicism is just wisdom, murder it, chop it up and serve it for dinner, I don’t care, just end this bullshit idea that it’s better to hate than to love and better to rot in miserable bitter resignation than to hope for the best.
“In a classic experiment, the psychologist J. Philippe Rushton gave 140 elementary- and middle-school-age children tokens for winning a game, which they could keep entirely or donate some to a child in poverty. They first watched a teacher figure play the game either selfishly or generously, and then preach to them the value of taking, giving or neither. The adult’s influence was significant: Actions spoke louder than words. When the adult behaved selfishly, children followed suit. The words didn’t make much difference — children gave fewer tokens after observing the adult’s selfish actions, regardless of whether the adult verbally advocated selfishness or generosity. When the adult acted generously, students gave the same amount whether generosity was preached or not — they donated 85 percent more than the norm in both cases. When the adult preached selfishness, even after the adult acted generously, the students still gave 49 percent more than the norm. Children learn generosity not by listening to what their role models say, but by observing what they do.”—"Raising a Moral Child"
I sometimes have to keep myself from commenting on posts about Steve Rogers and how his life was back in the day. Because WOW some folks don’t know anything about history!
Where are the posts about Steve snarling about Hoovervilles? How are people not taking advantage of how one of the reasons for the Great Depression was people buying shit they couldn’t afford on credit so he kinda is shocked that system IS STILL AROUND??? HOW ARE THE BANKS ALLOWED TO STILL DO THIS???
Where are the fics of him taking shit apart late at night when he can’t sleep because of how more efficient stuff is now! But he still hates starching his shirts. Why are there no machines for THAT. And yes Clint, we did have home appliances like washers back then. There were a lot of failed appliances that are no longer used today.
Don’t have him fumble with smartphones and the internet when he would LOVE seeing communication made easier! He saw his troops try to contact their families and how that was next to impossible. He would be so damn happy people can skype family on the other side of the world!
Imagine him bringing home some rabbits or pigeons to eat for supper one day. What do mean people don’t raise livestock in their apartments anymore? Not everyone can live on a farm for fresh meat Tony.
Imagine him FREAKING THE FUCK out of how BIG chickens are in the meat section. Because they are three times the size of what they were when he was a kid. But they sure don’t taste the same. None of the meat is the same. I mean he probably rarely ate meat. Some of it is better because of regulations. IMAGINE Hawkeye trying to freak Steve out when they get hotdogs and they’re a lot better than he remembers. Clint mentions it’s because they don’t throw rats in the vats anymore.
Just imagine historically accurate Steve. Imagine. Imagine him making shit up to fuck with Tony and Clint.
i send a pestilence and plague into your house, into your bed into your streams, into your streets into your drink, into your bread upon your cattle, on your sheep upon your oxen in your field into your dreams, into your sleep until you break, until you yield i send the swarm, i send the horde thus saith the lord
1. Who you are now is not who you will be in 10 years. It is okay to be somebody new 10 minutes from now. We are always learning. We are always growing. If you realized 10 seconds ago that you don’t like who you are, shed your skin, retry, replant yourself in good soil.
2. Cleaning is instant therapy. When your brain is muddy, take a shower, wash your hands, change your clothes. Spend 15 minutes straightening your living room. When you are angry, scrub things. I know it’s crazy but it works instantly.
3. Forgive someone’s debt if it’s under 50 dollars, forgive the small things, give a little time to yourself and forgive the big things too. Forgiveness isn’t about the other person, it’s about you. That being said - if someone ever hurts you in a way that would make me cry to know, you get out of there, my love. You just get up and go.
4. Gum karma is real and if you spit out a piece in public expect to find some on your shoe in the future. Same goes for insults and harsh judgement, too.
5. Do what you love and the money will follow.
6. Live your life with an open palm and give as much as you can and as often. At some point in your life, someone will lend you 50 bucks when you’re down on your luck. Remember how that feels. Remember to give that back.
7. Always wear clean underwear. You’ll thank me later.
8. There is a difference between being kind and being passive and there are those who cannot see that difference. They will try to walk all over you. Never bend your knees for those who do.
9. Have faith. Have faith in god or people or yourself or science or in luck or in all of the above. Faith is what keeps us going, faith is what keeps us strong.
10. Pay your bills on time whenever you can, although money is nothing. Remind yourself that.
11. Do not forget you were once ignorant of all you know now. Be patient of anyone who hasn’t had the education you have. Speak at the level of the person you are with - it’s not playing dumb, it’s being considerate. There’s no reason to make them feel uncomfortable. Plus then when someone starts going off about their superior IQ, you can cut them to pieces and watch their face when you do.
12. You are the best person in the room for one particular thing, and that’s confidence. You are the worst person in the room for another thing, and that’s humility. Use both carefully.
13. Never make fun of someone’s beliefs or superstitions, let your kid keep their imaginary friend and let your best buddy believe in knocking on wood. We all have security blankets. Don’t take away someone else’s.
14. Try to learn something new every day.
15. The worse you look, the more likely you are to run into someone you know so instead of feeling awkward, learn to be confident in sweats while talking to your friends.
16. Never go to bed angry, it will ruin your sleep and make tomorrow even harder. Find a way to relax. Don’t let today get to your head.
17. Think before you speak. When someone says something, mull over their words before answering. This is called listening, it is different than hearing.
18. What keeps love beautiful is that there’s risk involved. If he breaks your heart and it doesn’t hurt, it wasn’t love in the first place.
19. Never let someone else determine who you are or how happy. You are too strong to be torn apart.
20. I love you, even when we are fighting, even when I am fast asleep. Don’t doubt it for an instant. You are my everything.
”—Life lessons my mother has taught me from the side of her hospital bed (part 2/2 of a series) /// r.i.d (via inkskinned)
do action movies know they can have more than one female character
Someone should make an action movie with all girls except for one guy and have no explanation or mention of it in the movie and then pay all of the actors to act surprised like they’d never noticed when they get the inevitable storm of questions.
This one male must have a shower scene, be saved by the protagonist at least once, and fall in love with a lead female.
“In the neverending rush of our day, what does one little task matter?
It is everything. We speed through each task as if it’s nothing, looking already to the next task, until we collapse at the end of the day, exhausted. Having spent a day cranking through nothings.
That’s one approach, and I’ve done it many times. But here’s another: make each task its own universe, its own specialness. Then every moment of your day is ridiculously important and wonderful and powerful.
Here’s a process for one single task, whatever you have in front of you right now:
Pause and consider. Why are you doing the task? Because it’s on your list, because someone sent it to you? Or because it will make a difference in the world, help make someone’s life better? Is it a compassionate act? Is it part of a project that matters? Know why you’re doing something, and then imbue the task with that intention.
Notice your fear. Sometimes, we resist a task, procrastinate on it. I mean, not you, of course. Most other people procrastinate. This procrastination is rooted in fear, and so the trick is to see the fear, to feel it in your body, to accept it as part of you and not “wrong”. Then to give it compassion, and act anyway, in the moment. Don’t let your mind run away from the task.
Make the task your universe. Have you ever been reading an article (like this one) and had the urge to switch to something else? This urge pushes itself on us, all day, because of the nagging feeling that there’s something else we should be doing, something else more important, more fun, that we might be missing out on. Instead, forget about those something elses. Make this one task your everything, and give it the space to fill up your entire mind. Put yourself fully in this one space, and pretend there’s nothing else.
Stay with the task. Even with this task becoming your universe, there will be the urge to run away. This is fear again. Don’t let it rule you. Stick with the task, even just for a couple more minutes. Be curious about it: notice its qualities, wonder how it will go if you stay with it, don’t think you know everything about it. Pay attention, and see what it’s like.
Bow when you’re done. Don’t rush off to the next task, but instead pause. Create a tiny bit of space before you move on to the next thing. Wash your bowl. Check the task off your list. Breathe, and see how your body is feeling.
Joan and Sherlock model healthy disagreements so often
They do their best to speak clearly so that the other person doesn’t misunderstand
They genuinely listen to each other and respond to each other’s thoughts instead of just waiting for their turn to speak
They’re very willing to say “you’re right” and “I’m sorry”
If they disagree after talking it out, they’ll both take some time to think about it. If someone has a new thought they’ll bring it back, but it doesn’t have to start a new argument. Each appreciates that the other cares enough to share their thoughts, even when they don’t agree.
When they do genuinely fight, it’s short and to the point. Raised voices and rudeness are only involved in extremely emotional situations and when someone is being mistreated or ignored. Both have apologized for losing their temper and both bring the content of the argument back up in a calmer manner to sort out not only the conflict, but the hurt between them because of the fight.
THAT’S SO RARE AND IT’S SO IMPORTANT AND IT’S SO VISIBLE ON THIS SHOW AND IT MAKES ME SO HAPPY
if I ever see a girl in public who is clearly going for something really bold with her look (crazy hair, makeup, outfit) and looks like she’s maybe uncomfortable or nervous about rocking it, I make sure to go up to her and tell her she looks fierce. It took a lot of courage to go out like that and somebody ought to notice.
changes lives. be sure to do that at least once a day.
“When I first got this role I just cried like a baby because I was like, “Wow, next Halloween, I’m gonna open the door and there’s gonna be a little kid dressed as the Falcon.” That’s the thing that always gets me. I feel like everybody deserves that. I feel like there should be a Latino superhero. Scarlett does great representation for all the other girls, but there should be a Wonder Woman movie. I don’t care if they make 20 bucks, if there’s a movie you’re gonna lose money on, make it Wonder Woman. You know what I mean, ’cause little girls deserve that.”—Anthony Mackie (via rexilla)
s/o to the girls who grew up with moms who took their own physical insecurities out on their daughters and made them feel ugly know that shit’s rough but ur a blossom sugarplum who deserves to be treated well