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Marry your best friend. I do not say that lightly. Really, truly find the strongest, happiest friendship in the person you fall in love with. Someone who speaks highly of you. Someone you can laugh with. The kind of laughs that make your belly ache, and your nose snort. The embarrassing, earnest, healing kind of laughs. Wit is important. Life is too short not to love someone who lets you be a fool with them. Make sure they are somebody who lets you cry, too. Despair will come. Find someone that you want to be there with you through those times. Most importantly, marry the one that makes passion, love, and madness combine and course through you. A love that will never dilute - even when the waters get deep, and dark.
N’tima (via arabarabarab)(via dduane)
Posted on May 21, 2013 via mariaarroyo with 92,459 notes
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I’d rather be around a passionate nerd than a non-passionate cool person. Because if you lack passion, your soul is diminishing by the second. You have to be passionate about something. Call it obsessed or whatever you want, but be obsessed about something. Obsessed people care. I’m passionate about so many things, it becomes an issue at certain points, but at least you have the ability to feel that much about something
Matt Cohen (via laststaggraphics)(via missmokushiroku)
Posted on May 20, 2013 via Last Stag Graphics with 8,493 notes
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A novel’s technique exists to diminish and if possible abolish the distance between the story and the reader.
Mario Vargas Llosa (via theparisreview)
YES YES YES. I want you to forget I’m there. But way more important, I want you to forget YOU’RE there. This is what storytelling is.
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Posted on May 16, 2013 via The Paris Review with 322 notes
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Writers end up writing about their obsessions. Things that haunt them; things they can’t forget; stories they carry in their bodies waiting to be released.
Natalie Goldberg (via middecember)(via missmokushiroku)
Posted on May 9, 2013 via Writings for Winter with 12,067 notes
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It’s not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It’s our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless.
Posted on May 7, 2013 via hopefully raw with 15,116 notes
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Black women wake up in the morning, look in the mirror, and see Black women. White women wake up in the morning, look in the mirror, and see women. White men wake up in the morning, look in the mirror, and see human beings.
Michelle Haimoff, on privilege (via jatigi)(via blackfeministmanifesto)
Posted on May 1, 2013 via nothing more that i desire with 11,420 notes
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“You don’t know anyone at the party, so you don’t want to go. You don’t like cottage cheese, so you haven’t eaten it in years. This is your choice, of course, but don’t kid yourself: it’s also the flinch. Your personality is not set in stone. You may think a morning coffee is the most enjoyable thing in the world, but it’s really just a habit. Thirty days without it, and you would be fine. You think you have a soul mate, but in fact you could have had any number of spouses. You would have evolved differently, but been just as happy.
You can change what you want about yourself at any time. You see yourself as someone who can’t write or play an instrument, who gives in to temptation or makes bad decisions, but that’s really not you. It’s not ingrained. It’s not your personality. Your personality is something else, something deeper than just preferences, and these details on the surface, you can change anytime you like.
If it is useful to do so, you must abandon your identity and start again. Sometimes, it’s the only way. Set fire to your old self. It’s not needed here. It’s too busy shopping, gossiping about others, and watching days go by and asking why you haven’t gotten as far as you’d like. This old self will die and be forgotten by all but family, and replaced by someone who makes a difference.
Your new self is not like that. Your new self is the Great Chicago Fire—overwhelming, overpowering, and destroying everything that isn’t necessary.”
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3 percent of the decision-making in media comes from women. That means 97 percent of how women are portrayed is decided on by men.
Independent Lens, PBS
“Wonder Women! The Untold Story of American Superheroines” (via ihopeyoucontinue4ever)It also means that 97 percent of how men are portrayed in media are decided on by men. Something to remind MRAs and their ilk of when they complain about the stereotype of men as inept slobs, bad fathers, etc in media and advertising.
Men have the power. So when we men are shat on by the powers that be you don’t get to try and blame women for that.
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The trouble is that we have a bad habit, encouraged by pedants and sophisticates, of considering happiness as something rather stupid. Only pain is intellectual, only evil interesting. This is the treason of the artist: a refusal to admit the banality of evil and the terrible boredom of pain. If you can’t lick ‘em, join ‘em. If it hurts, repeat it. But to praise despair is to condemn delight, to embrace violence is to lose hold of everything else. We have almost lost hold; we can no longer describe a happy man, nor make any celebration of joy.
Ursula Le Guin, The Ones Who Walk Away from Omelas
#i love dark and grim narratives a lot but i’m so sick of how popular they are#nope just because a story shows us the awful side of humanity and existence it doesn’t mean it’s good #nope just because a story shows us the awful sides of humanity and existence itself it doesn’t mean it’s good #especially if the execution is terrible which is where too many of these narratives fall flat (via sokkasass)
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It is likely I will die next to a pile of things I was meaning to read.
Lemony Snicket (via valiuum)(via recreationalcannibalism)
This is what the inside of my brain looks like. Tread carefully.
